We’ll keep this short and sweet…
You’re not the only woman your Non-Existent Boyfriend is seeing, and you can’t go crazy over it.
Let’s think. Dating is about seeing more than one person at a time, so you can weigh your options and narrow-down your selection to the Non-Existent Boyfriend you connect with most. If you’re not seeing more than one guy for dinner dates, phone conversations and ice cream, you need to start doing that now.
Unlike some of you, your Non-Existent Boyfriend usually never dates one person at a time, and he has every right not to. Some Non-Existent Boyfriends do this, not because they’re players or because they want notches under their belt, but because they’re actually looking for Mrs. Right and won’t stop until they find her.
When you put yourself in a position where you’re only seeing one guy, very early on, your chances of getting too emotional, too attached and too crazy is highly likely. It also obscures the view you have of your Non-Existent Boyfriend. In other words, dating just one guy at a time will have you believing he should be doing the same, and if he doesn’t, you somehow think he’s betrayed you… (contrary my dear).
Always keep in mind, a single man is comparing you to at least one other woman. It’s not to say he’s hung over an ex or thinks he’s some king, but he’s enjoying the time he’s having as a bachelor and he’s hoping you are too as a beautiful, single woman. Never think that you’re the only woman on the Non-Existent Boyfriend’s radar. As much as you’d like to be the center of his attention, (because mommy told you, you were a princess and you were God’s gift to men), there’s another woman who he at least has the hot’s for until he gets more serious with you.
So, if you can help it, date like you’re the Non-Existent Boyfriend himself. Keep in contact with “friends” to keep your social life active, and date around until it’s time to respectfully give certain men the boot. If you mentally give your Non-Existent Boyfriend a more serious role than he signed up for, and expect him not to be out exploring his options, you’re crazier than you thought.
Your favorite blogger (and “Crazy” coach),