“I want you to tell me the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, so help you God!”
You always want the truth from your Non-Existent Boyfriend, and when you get it, you run from it.
The truth hurts—- I get it. But why do so many single women go through the agony of wanting their Non-Existent Boyfriends to “fess up” with their feelings, and when they do, women take off faster than Usain Bolt?
I think I have the reasons as to why women, like you, do this ritual act and refuse to hear what your Non-Existent Boyfriend has to say:
1. You fear losing him.
You want the real-deal, but fear losing the guy you like over of it. For example, you may ask your Non-Existent Boyfriend something like, “Do you see yourself married in the future?” And when he answers ‘no’, you suddenly cringe and fear that he wasn’t the guy you signed up for, in spite of the fact that there’s a real connection there.
2. You don’t want to reciprocate telling your truths.
Let’s face it. When your Non-Existent Boyfriend is truthful with you, you have to suddenly become the truthful person you were fearing. Although it’s the most responsible thing to do to tell the truth, you have to answer the same questions you posed on him, and you didn’t realize you weren’t even ready for it! (i.e. Him: So, what about you? Have you ever had a one night stand?)
3. You know he’ll lie.
Although you have butterflies for your Non-Existent Boyfriend, you know he won’t be honest when you ask him if he’s dating other people. Rather than asking him that question and accepting the truth, you avoid the obvious and dodge important questions that’ll dictate your next move.
So what’s my advice to running away from what your Non-Existent Boyfriend has to say?
One of the main reasons to date, is to know as much as you can about the guy you’re interested in dating. Asking questions is healthy. It’s the only way to know for sure if this is the guy you want to see yourself with for the long-haul. Ask your Non-Existent Boyfriend a fair question, be upfront yourself, and accept all what he has to say.
Until next time, make a list of all the questions you want to ask him and muster up the courage to ask; you’ll thank yourself for it in the end.
Your favorite blogger (and “Crazy” coach),