I see and hear it all the time.
A single girl goes to her friend for advice about a guy she’s dating, she takes the advice, and IT’S THE WRONG DAMN ADVICE!!
It’s hard to discern whether our friends are staring us down the right path when we ask them for advice on our next dating move. We wonder: Is it sound advice? Is their advice reasonable because they’re in or HAVE been in a successful relationship and we’re not?
Often times, we take the advice from our sister-friend because after all, they mean us well, right?
Well, their intentions may be good for us, but their method to help us handle sticky situations with our Non-Existent Boyfriends??…Ehhhh, not so much!
Here’s the raw truth. Your friend(s) may actually be the reason you can’t get it together yet. They may be giving you advice that, well, sucks!
It’s always good to go to a friend for advice, when talking to your Non-Existent Boyfriend is not what you’re willing to do. However, if your friend is ecouraging you to do or say things that make you uncomfortable or get you emotionally charged up, chances are, you’re on the verge of going crazy.
I know, I know, you count on your friends for every bit of advice when you want to respond to your Non-Existent Boyfrind a certain way— I get it. But doing a drive-by in his neighborhood, requesting the friendship of the girl you THINK might be the other woman on social media or calling him blocked and hanging up, are just some of the crazy behaviors you want to avoid.
Put it like this. Friends don’t let friends drive drunk (sometimes…) and emotionally controlled friends don’t let their friends go crazy over a guy they’re not even committed to.
Be careful of the advice you take from friends, big or small. Their “words of wisdom” could be why you’re still irrational, confused and going crazy over the simplest things. If you’re not sure whether your friend is setting the stage for you to appear like an emotional wreck, ask yourself, “If I didn’t go to him/her about this, would I even be doing this?” And if you do decide to take advantage of your friend’s advice, “Am I comfortable doing/saying this, and will it make me look/feel crazy?”
Your favorite blogger, (and “Crazy” coach),